Friday Advice Column: L-O-L-O-L-O-L-O-V-E!

Taken from Wikipedia:

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. In some religious contexts, love is not just a virtue, but the basis for all being, as in the Christian phrase, "God is love" or Agape in the Canonical gospels.[2] Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion.[3] Or as actions towards others based on affection.[4]

Love to me is so many things. It's the way he looks at me in the morning. The way we laugh at each others jokes. The silence that arrives whenever we have nothing to say. The comfortableness of his presence whenever he is around. The look on his face when he tells me, "I love you." The way he fights with me. The irritation in his voice when I annoy him. It's so many things.

I feel like love is more than just a "strong affection and personal attachment". You can have strong affection for just about anyone. But love? Love is more than that to me. You can't really explain it.

Wen you are in love there are 3 some simple signs that show you how much you love your other half:

1. Affection: Love without affection is like a car without gas. Without affection, the fuel of your love life won't go anywhere. You need to have that initial affection that you felt when you first fell in love to last forever! It's really hard to keep that up but as long as you both know that you are working on being together than you are already on your way to a great relationship with yourself and your partner. A lot of the time people start fighting and it gets really bad. But it's a good thing. You know what gets on each others nerves and you feel that doing that will get you more attention from them. I know I do that sometimes. Or if you are just messing around and joking with each other and suddenly there's a misunderstanding and you fight. Or things get really ugly and you yell and scream and fight because you want to prove your point or you don't wanna back down. And sometimes you just feel so weak to that person because you are so vulnerable to the person you are in love with. It's a difficult situation, but you have to know that as long as both partners have that affection for each other. That WANT to be with your other half. That determination to work things out, then your relationship will blossom and you can get through any troubling situation you find yourself in.

2. Action and Initiation: This is a great key to keep your love life fresh and consistent. Taking action when something happens to your partner or your partner wants from you. It's such a great feel to provide and show that you are listening and it makes your partner feel great as well. Whenever you perform an action that is not pre-meditated is called Initiation and that goes a long way. Doing something for your partner when they least expect it is a great gesture to show them that you love them and are thinking about them even when your not together or talking. Not saying that sometimes people just don't like surprises, but you need to understand when your actions are wanted and needed. The things you do, reflect on how your relationship is progressing. If you don't do much with each other, it feels like your relationship is dwindling but you just need to find that something that will bring it back up again. Especially if you want to be in a relationship in the first places. Once you stop caring, there's no room for your relationship to grow. Even if efforts fail, you owe it to each other to keep working at it.

3. The Act of Pleasure: Sex and making love! Yes! Sex is one of the best ways to keep a relationship alive. You shouldn't base your relationship ON sex but it is a great outlet for your emotions and hormones. Making Love is a very intimate act that you get when you yearn for that person you love and you want to feel like a part of them and you want to feel them yearn for you as well. Sex is a great way to get down and dirty and sexy. Sex is such a great feeling that you can use to show the person that you are sexually attracted to them. Some people don't wanna just make love, they want to get their happiness, aggression out, their sexual frustration out, their lustfulness out, their stress out, and their creativity. A great way to keep your sex life "at attention" is to be creative. Missionary just doesn't cut it after the few 100 times, so try doggy style or on the sofa, or in the kitchen... Josh knows I love it everywhere around the house so get creative. You can use toys or whatever suits you are your partners needs and fantasies!

I hope that you guys will take into consideration my top 3 signs of Love! If you have any questions at all about anything, just email me or comment below! Have a wonderful friday! =]