Friday Advice Column: Happiness for all!

First of all, thank you guys SOOOOO so much for the awards! Mostly to Justina from The Personal Geographic and Jodie-Ann from Musings by Jodie.

Hey guys! Sorry I've been out of commission for the week. Opportunities have just been knocking on my door and I'm so thankful!

I got a new job working for an Optometrist in Grapevine. It's so exciting! I love working for Optometrists. It's gonna be different from the last time I worked for one because there is going to be a total of 3 staff members, and only one is going to be working the whole day with the doctor!

The last time I worked for an Optometrist, there was 3 or four other people working so I know i'm gonna be on my toes! But that's okay. I definitely need the extra income and I know for a fact that it's gonna be a great job for me. Also the scheduling is perfect. It's Tuesdays and Thursdays all day and the occasional Saturdays! It's perfect because I won't be rushing around on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays to get to work and get my husband to work. And I'll still have Mondays, Wednesdays and Friday mornings to either go back to school or take up a Yoga class! =].

REMIND ME: I NEED TO MAKE A TRAJECTORY

Anyways, back to the topic at hand: Happiness for all.

Let me tell you MY key to happiness: The two P's, Patience and Positivity.

- Patience because you need to get through the nitty gritty to get to the really good stuff. With Trial comes pain and error and eventually, when you get it right, Happiness. There are steps that people need to take to achieve happiness. You cannot just receive happiness and there you go, it's there and it will never go away because it will. You need to find happiness for yourself. Make yourself happy.

- If making people happy, makes you happy then go for it, but remember that you aren't going to make everyone happy, and that's okay. As long as you tried your hardest, then you can always tell yourself that you did a good job. Being patient is a key factor in happiness because it isn't going to come to you whenever you want. Sometimes It's when you least expect it and that's the best time too.

- Positivity is hard because not everyone can be so positive all the time. The thing with me is that I made the resolution to be happy this year. To make myself happy and try harder and not beat myself up for the things I didn't accomplish.

- It is so much easier to think negative than to think positive.Society has made negativity a trend these days. Whenever something negative happens in the news, it is crazy, they blow it up, gossip blogs and all kinds of stuff. Of course everyone feels sorry for the less fortunately, it's nature to have compassion but don't let it ruin your happiness. Life is for you to take.

- If you want to be Happy, Be. That's it. No fences, no games, no nothing. Just be happy. Think Happy. Talk Happy. Move Happy. Dance Happy. Sing Happy. Love. Like Nike said, Just do it.

- Find things that make you happy. Things that make me happy are:
- My husband.
- Singing.
- Playing guitar.
- Yoga.
- My family.

- Hang on to Happiness, it's really hard to come across it but you cannot let it go because:

- NOTHING IS WORTH BEING HAPPY FOR IF YOU DON'T FIGHT FOR IT! That's the truth. You need to fight for your happiness. You can't let your happiness pass you by.

So what do YOU guys think happiness is all about? Tell me what makes you happy.

Friday Advice Column: L-O-L-O-L-O-L-O-V-E!

Taken from Wikipedia:

Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. In some religious contexts, love is not just a virtue, but the basis for all being, as in the Christian phrase, "God is love" or Agape in the Canonical gospels.[2] Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion.[3] Or as actions towards others based on affection.[4]

Love to me is so many things. It's the way he looks at me in the morning. The way we laugh at each others jokes. The silence that arrives whenever we have nothing to say. The comfortableness of his presence whenever he is around. The look on his face when he tells me, "I love you." The way he fights with me. The irritation in his voice when I annoy him. It's so many things.

I feel like love is more than just a "strong affection and personal attachment". You can have strong affection for just about anyone. But love? Love is more than that to me. You can't really explain it.

Wen you are in love there are 3 some simple signs that show you how much you love your other half:

1. Affection: Love without affection is like a car without gas. Without affection, the fuel of your love life won't go anywhere. You need to have that initial affection that you felt when you first fell in love to last forever! It's really hard to keep that up but as long as you both know that you are working on being together than you are already on your way to a great relationship with yourself and your partner. A lot of the time people start fighting and it gets really bad. But it's a good thing. You know what gets on each others nerves and you feel that doing that will get you more attention from them. I know I do that sometimes. Or if you are just messing around and joking with each other and suddenly there's a misunderstanding and you fight. Or things get really ugly and you yell and scream and fight because you want to prove your point or you don't wanna back down. And sometimes you just feel so weak to that person because you are so vulnerable to the person you are in love with. It's a difficult situation, but you have to know that as long as both partners have that affection for each other. That WANT to be with your other half. That determination to work things out, then your relationship will blossom and you can get through any troubling situation you find yourself in.

2. Action and Initiation: This is a great key to keep your love life fresh and consistent. Taking action when something happens to your partner or your partner wants from you. It's such a great feel to provide and show that you are listening and it makes your partner feel great as well. Whenever you perform an action that is not pre-meditated is called Initiation and that goes a long way. Doing something for your partner when they least expect it is a great gesture to show them that you love them and are thinking about them even when your not together or talking. Not saying that sometimes people just don't like surprises, but you need to understand when your actions are wanted and needed. The things you do, reflect on how your relationship is progressing. If you don't do much with each other, it feels like your relationship is dwindling but you just need to find that something that will bring it back up again. Especially if you want to be in a relationship in the first places. Once you stop caring, there's no room for your relationship to grow. Even if efforts fail, you owe it to each other to keep working at it.

3. The Act of Pleasure: Sex and making love! Yes! Sex is one of the best ways to keep a relationship alive. You shouldn't base your relationship ON sex but it is a great outlet for your emotions and hormones. Making Love is a very intimate act that you get when you yearn for that person you love and you want to feel like a part of them and you want to feel them yearn for you as well. Sex is a great way to get down and dirty and sexy. Sex is such a great feeling that you can use to show the person that you are sexually attracted to them. Some people don't wanna just make love, they want to get their happiness, aggression out, their sexual frustration out, their lustfulness out, their stress out, and their creativity. A great way to keep your sex life "at attention" is to be creative. Missionary just doesn't cut it after the few 100 times, so try doggy style or on the sofa, or in the kitchen... Josh knows I love it everywhere around the house so get creative. You can use toys or whatever suits you are your partners needs and fantasies!

I hope that you guys will take into consideration my top 3 signs of Love! If you have any questions at all about anything, just email me or comment below! Have a wonderful friday! =]

Fridays Advice Column: People who feel sorry for themselves.

Hey guys! So today's topic is Sad people. It depresses me. Do you guys like it when people start hating themselves? It's extremely depressing.

Whenever I go on my Facebook there's always some depressing ass person who is trolling around saying stuff about they hate themselves, FML and that they are so disappointed with themselves. It really irks me when people do that. I mean, I do get that feeling some times but I'm trying to be positive in situations like that.

I'm sure that people are so caught up in their emotions and that's what makes them think that way, but here's what I think: If you are feeling that way, do something about it.

I'm sure that people could have said that they could've handled a situation differently and that's okay but people shouldn't beat themselves up over it.

If it's something as devastating as breaking up with someone then there's a little more lee-way for that. I don't think you should feel sorry for yourself. It just didn't work out, or you were cheated on or whatever your situation, it really just depends on how you deal with it.

So here's a thing for people, if your feeling down, listen to a song you like, or read something inspiring or go out and take a walk. Do something productive that will keep your mind off of it, and once your not so vulnerable and emotional you can think clearly and see what the problem is.

It's really hard to do that sometimes but people should really push through it. Cry and cry and cry but once you feel like you wanna get out of that take my advice and keep a positive outlook on life. Don't beat yourself over something that is either inevitable or just didn't work out.

Fridays Advice Column: Should couples get married after admitting to cheating?

My husbands cousin posted this question as her Facebook status. To which I responded:

As long as both of you want to work on it and want to keep going with your relationship then yes. You never know if they are gonna do it or not. Whoever will tell you what they want to say to keep you happy, but you need to be able want to ...take the risk! You never know until it happens, or doesn't! And hopefully it doesn't! You should most definitely put things aside and talk about it beforehand. It's a very delicate subject and it goes beyond just loving each other. You don't want to waste your time with someone who isn't going make you happy and you shouldn't go into a marriage with a cloud over your head, it's not fair to either of you. You have to blindly go into it knowing that you are gonna try your hardest to work through it.

I agree with myself... I also added:

I say Forgive but DON'T forget. You shouldn't forget mistakes that has happened. But it also shouldn't give you the right to throw it in their face. That's how you push people away. It's still there but if they get married then they moved p...ast it but you don't ever bring it up again. That's what helps you gain trust back, and that how your partner knows that you are in it for the long run and are trying to trust them more by not bringing up their mistakes. It's just one huge mind-fuck but you have to be in it to win it, there's nothing you can't work through!

What do you guys think? Marriage is a very touchy subject. My marriage definitely has had it's up and downs but we work through it. If not marriage, what about a relationship? Do you think that people should stay together after admitting to cheating?