Fridays Advice Column: Should couples get married after admitting to cheating?

My husbands cousin posted this question as her Facebook status. To which I responded:

As long as both of you want to work on it and want to keep going with your relationship then yes. You never know if they are gonna do it or not. Whoever will tell you what they want to say to keep you happy, but you need to be able want to ...take the risk! You never know until it happens, or doesn't! And hopefully it doesn't! You should most definitely put things aside and talk about it beforehand. It's a very delicate subject and it goes beyond just loving each other. You don't want to waste your time with someone who isn't going make you happy and you shouldn't go into a marriage with a cloud over your head, it's not fair to either of you. You have to blindly go into it knowing that you are gonna try your hardest to work through it.

I agree with myself... I also added:

I say Forgive but DON'T forget. You shouldn't forget mistakes that has happened. But it also shouldn't give you the right to throw it in their face. That's how you push people away. It's still there but if they get married then they moved p...ast it but you don't ever bring it up again. That's what helps you gain trust back, and that how your partner knows that you are in it for the long run and are trying to trust them more by not bringing up their mistakes. It's just one huge mind-fuck but you have to be in it to win it, there's nothing you can't work through!

What do you guys think? Marriage is a very touchy subject. My marriage definitely has had it's up and downs but we work through it. If not marriage, what about a relationship? Do you think that people should stay together after admitting to cheating?

Day 26 - Photo(s) of where I've been too

MMMkay. So today, on Day 26 of the 30 Day Blog Challenge, is a photo of where I've been too. Well I decided to add more than one photo because you can't really grasp the whole experience of the Philippines in just one photo. Well I'm sure you can but I didn't take a picture like that. Instead, here are some pictures of my trip to P.I. for my dads wedding back in July of 2010. The picture above is of a thingy in the middle of the street. It was right after I got off the plane and I went to my step mothers Bachelorette party and it was absolutely crazy!

There was a a lot of singing involved and a stripper that got completely naked! So awkward! But my aunt protected me! LOL it was so funny. But I enjoyed it.

The picture above is of the same thing except from a different angle. I added 'Chow King' to the picture because it's my favorite place to eat when I'm in the Philippines, but my dad wouldn't take me there. Boo. Sucks. Oh well. I will get my chance to go when I go again in the futur-o!

Okay so now, this picture above is of Villa Escudero. I took it while we were eating breakfast and you can see the little cabin/house thing that we stayed in over the water. It was beautiful there. Swimming and dining. I think the best thing about it was you could eat over the water. Literally! You would go down these stairs and you would see a waterfall. Right where the water fall like... finishes, in the space at the bottom, there was tables and chairs where you could eat. You took off your shoes and went into the water and got your food and sat and ate! All in the water. It was really cool. It's was an amazing experience.

This picture depicted above is of one of the malls in P.I., it was huge! Freaking 8 stories high! Of just shopping and what not. I also got to go to Mall of Asia, which is the biggest mall in all of Asia. Let me just say, they had like hotels and what not camped out all over the mall so people could stay there. It took like a whole week to see the whole mall and let me say that we didn't see even half of it! I want to come back and do more shopping because everything there is freaking cheap!

The last picture above is the reception at my dads wedding. It was an amazing reception and I got to sing and make a toast! I sang "Always and Forever" by Luther Vandross. I felt that I did alright, lol. Well the main point of the picture is that the little card says "I Love You" in Ilocano which is one of the dialects in the Philippines. On every table, there was a different card that all said "I Love You" in all different languages. it was so cute!

If you wanna see the rest of the 300 pictures, you can add me on Facebook! http://www.facebook.com/adrianbalansay

Day 24 - A Photo of something that means a lot to me

Hey guys! This is a photo of something that means a lot to me: My Wedding Ring! Okay, funny story. My husband and I pretty much eloped when we got married. We didn't tell anyone at all and drove from Dallas, TX to Las Vegas, Nevada. It was like a 20 hour drive. We were almost there when we realized that we didn't have any rings! We were already in debt... about 500 bucks in debt and so we went to WalMart and got some regular rings and promised each other that in a couple of years, we are gonna get married again and get real rings.

So thats what means a lot to me. My wedding ring. Symbolizing our long and hard journey of commitment and love for each other.

New Layout! Inspiration is hard to find.

As a lot of you guys know, inspiration is one of the hardest things to come by. Most people spend days, weeks, months, years looking for inspiration and it's so hard to come by it most of the time. Some people can come up with anything and work off of that and inspiration will come naturally. Unfortunately for me, I try to find inspiration, but it just never comes! I have to be super vulnerable or sad or just over emotional for something to come to me. It sucks really. Maybe sometimes, it'll come out of nowhere and I'll write a song in less than 10 minutes. Isn't that crazy? I think so.

Well, I put up a new layout for my blog. It is a small little banner that someone made for me. If you have been to my YouTube Channel you would recognize it. I like it and decided to put it as the background.

I'm not very good with designing websites. When I was younger, I was all into that and I would design many things but then I just lost touch with it when I moved around a lot. I wish I knew how to do it. I mean, I know what I want from my blog and my website but I feel like I just cannot muster up the creativity to fix it up. I just do not have that ability to do that.

I'm trying to think of a niche for my blog. I know that I don't want to really just limit myself to one thing and go about my life just working off of it. I feel that's too constricting of my talents. But I do need something that I can focus on and write about that people will come back too. It seems as if i'm just writing randomly and life is just changing too much for me to put everything I want to down into a blog. So I just need to focus on smaller things. What should I write about more often?

- Weight Loss, Dieting, Health and Exercising
- Dating, Relationships and being married
- Music, Singing and tips on singing
- Arts, and Crafts, mostly crocheting
- Recipes
- Technology, phones, software, computers
- Reviews on books
- Fashion

Day 3 - Your idea of your perfect first date.

Hello everyone! How are you? I'm doing pretty good. I am sitting here watching the first Yu-Gi-oh! movie. It's so good. I might have to watch the rest of these shows again. Anyways, the third day is to tell everyone what my idea of the perfect first date is....

Well, I already had an amazing amazing first date so I won't go into my idea for my perfect first date. My first date with my husband. It was about a year ago. The week after we got together we went to the Italian Inn. It's this really cute spot at 6323 Camp Bowie Blvd # 123, Fort Worth, TX 76116, you can visit the website at theitalianinn.com. Josh and I absolutely loved this place. The food was great and not too expensive and you can request for your waiter/tress to sing! They are actually all very good singers also so it's a great perk to the place. But the thing that really gets us going is that you can sit in booths that close and you can write all over the walls. So bring your markers and paper because with the very underground and intimate atmosphere, you'll want to write love letters all over the place. I wonder if the love letters we wrote to each other are still displayed under the table glass?

Having that dinner really sealed the deal with us. It was so romantic and lovely, the waitress was amazing, and we talked about our future together and ate amazing food. We most definitely need to go again soon, maybe for our anniversary to remind us of how we fell in love and go back to where it first started.